Mark Manson pulls no punches in his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. I loved this book. It talks about how so many of us feel entitled to things. At times, it’s hard to take. He turns self-help on its head. Seriously – and I’m a self-help junkie. I should know.
How does Mark do it differently?
Mark tells you that you shouldn’t care about everything. You should pick and choose your pet projects and causes. Give your fucks about things that are worth it to you and forget the rest. You don’t have to care about everything and everyone to be an ‘enlightened being.’ Basically, you have to care about the right things and stop caring about everything else. Focus and pay attention. No one can give a fuck about everything. It’s just not possible.
Guess what? You don’t have to be happy all the time.
Mark tells you in this book that happiness all the time is unrealistic. We, as a society, are constantly seeking to happiness. We’re happiness junkies and will do amazing things to avoid rejection and pain. Well, rejection and pain are a part of life and we need to embrace them and make room for them. They’re there and they’re not going anywhere. If we don’t deal with them, they’ll just keep showing up.
So, unlike most self-help authors, Mark tells you feel the pain. Be real with yourself and potentially with others, preferably people you are committed to and trust and who return the favor. The relief I felt when I read that I don’t have to pursue happiness like it was the love of my life was a great revelation. I thank Mark for this. Woo hoo!
Most people feel they are entitled to things.
We all hear about ‘entitlement’ these days. Mark has a different idea of what entitled means. He talks a lot about entitlement in the book. Basically, people feel entitled to live a certain quality of life and they go to great lengths to keep their illusions and delusions active while avoiding simple yet difficult truths about themselves. Most people will never change. That’s fine, but you can if you want to. Mark did. He recognizes that he was entitled as a youth. As an adult, he now lives a healthy and happy life with his wife and his business. This man gives plenty of fucks about things that are important and doesn’t give a fuck about things that don’t mean squat to him. He’s got it figured it out, and, no I’m not being sarcastic about it. Mark really does.
Why you should read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck?
Why the hell not? Frankly, you can learn a lot about what’s important to you and what’s not. You could afford to point the mirror at yourself and take a good long look at what you find. Sure, you may not like it all, but you don’t have to. You can feel unsettled; you can feel bad, and you can get depressed. It’s natural, normal and necessary. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck is a great read for anyone who’s a bit burned out on normal self-help books. It’s a fresh take on self-help that I find very refreshing and extremely necessary. Check it out if you dare.