
As a coach, many people come to me at the end of the calendar year and the beginning of the next one to discuss resolutions. I often find that these resolutions are too broad and too difficult to maintain. I personally don’t make resolutions myself. Rather, I make promises to myself that I intend to keep. I know that for some people that doesn’t seem much different, but mindset is key. A promise is something that’s harder to break than a resolution.
So, what’s an example of a resolution?
A lot of people resolve in January to eat 5-7 servings of fruits and vegetables daily. Another common resolution is to work out six days a week for up to an hour at a time. When clients come to me with these types of resolutions, I often ask them what their current situation is. Questions include -how many servings of fruits or vegetables do you eat now, or how often and how long do you work out for?
The answers are usually pretty astounding. Many of those clients don’t eat any fruit or vegetables and are pretty sedentary. Going from nothing to something significant virtually overnight is not only daunting and overwhelming but next to impossible.
Behavior change happens incrementally and with consistency. It also happens over time. It’s not an immediate occurrence. People are creatures of habit and when they are working to change the habits they currently have, it takes time to build new neural pathways in the brain that lead one to engage in the new behavior or habit. The good news is that the brain is neuroplastic and it’s absolutely possible to change our habits. We just need to be patient and put in the work.
Some scientific studies seem to suggest that it takes about 21 days to make a habit. That’s a bit too simplistic. It depends on the habit you’re changing and your consistency with it as well as your overall desire to change. Some people know they should change, but deep down, they don’t really want to. That’s okay. As a coach, I make it my job to meet people where they’re at even if they don’t always know exactly where that is. Coaching is a collaborative effort, and we work together to figure out what approach is best for the client. Different clients often require different approaches.
So, for the folks who want to eat 5-7 fruits of vegetables a day, I suggest that they add in one extra serving of fruits or vegetables, whichever they prefer, for at least five days a week to start. I suggest they do this for 4-6 weeks and see how it goes. Once they realize that it’s doable and relatively easy, they come back to me and they’re reading to up their intake naturally. They find they like eating better and feel better when they do so. They see the benefits of it even if the scale hasn’t shifted much.
As for those would-be exercise buffs, I ask them to try two to three twenty to thirty sessions of cardio each week. It can be walking (indoors on a treadmill or outdoors depending on the weather), riding a stationary bike, doing the elliptical, dancing or a myriad of other activities. They often ask me if that’s enough. I tell them it’s a good start and they can slowly build up to the ultimate goal of 6 days a week for an hour at a time. I also encourage them at some point to put in strength training activities, but I take it one step at a time so as not to overwhelm them.
How do I know that this works? I’ve done it myself. When I began exercising in 2018 – after an extended period of being extremely sedentary – I started with five minutes on the workout bike twice a week. It was difficult, but I kept at it. Now, I do at least 40 minutes on the bike daily and add in rowing, yoga, pickleball or isometric exercises multiple times a week. I often work out for longer than an hour in total and I’m perfectly content to do so. I love exercising so much that I can’t go for a day without it. I never thought that would be me. It never would’ve been me had I set the stakes too high. At the time, I was so physically unfit that if I tried working out too much, I’d either have injured myself or overworked my body and it would’ve been so unpleasant I wouldn’t have wanted to do it again.
In 2024, let’s work on achieving goals together. Contact me at dcgoodson@gmail.com to set up a free 60-minute chemistry session to see if we’re a good fit. I’d love the opportunity to work with you!









